Happy Marriage and a Successful Marriage

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Happy Marriage and a Successful Marriage Requires God Centeredness

In God’s Eyes, How Does Your Marriage Stand Up?

A happy marriage requires a lot more than just exchanging your marital VOWS/I DO’s .

A happy marriage and for that matter a successful marriage requires the hope and faith in God Almighty above.

I truly believe that you need to have a Christ-centered approach to life and living in general, in order to experience true marital bliss and a fulfilling life.

My lovely wife and I (about me) , just celebrated our 26th wedding anniversary in April of 2011.

And for those of you who are contemplating marriage, or planning on getting married soon, 26 years being married to the same woman is a big deal.

Being married to the same spouse in our first marriage-and I pray will be each of our only marriage during our lifetime, is truly a blessing.

However, the one misnomer about marriage in general that I would like to correct which is widely universally accepted as truth , is that marriage is a 50/50 proposition. Nothing could be farther from the truth. This is the world’s lie. You need to learn How to mediate and pray daily to build a vibrant and happy marriage.

Marriage like any other successful relationships that are apart of life, requires each party pulling their own weight committed to the relationship 150% together. Do you ever wonder why there are such high and alarming failures in the institution of marriage? Marriage is anything but two hearts and minds joined together with God leading, and directing your paths in life.

There are so many negative global influences that are tearing apart the very fabric of marriage-which I believe is between one woman and one man ONLY . The bible is very clear and implicit what God intended for marriage to be between one man and one woman only. . This is not debatable.

If you are offended by my Christian faith and my personal beliefs about a happy marriage as inspired and given by the word of God in the bible-the Universal Creator of the universe and the author of marriage; well I make no apologies to you or to anyone else as the bible is crystal clear regarding this subject.

However if you are looking for advise or successful marriage tips in how you can have and experience a more fulfilling, a more happy marriage, and more importantly, if you want to know the SECRET in how to succeed in your happy marriage , experiencing more marital bliss for you and your spouse-then keep on reading.

Marriage Tips for a Happy Marriage and Lasting Marriage

Establishing a Personal Relationship with the Lord God of the universe The one who created mankind, and designed and created marriage between a man and a woman-wants first and foremost that each and everyone of us establish a personal relationship with Him. Successful relationships first begin with God. How do you do that you may ask? Only by accepting the Lord Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Savior-that’s how.

The only way to salvation is through the blood of Jesus Christ -and although salvation is inclusive to all of mankind, salvation is exclusive to only those who believe in Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and Savior ONLY. The free eternal gift of salvation is universal to all mankind. Acts 4:12 Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to men by which we must be saved.
You see God is the in relationship building business. How much better can you be in your wedding bliss, your marital bliss with your spouse by first establishing a relationship with God Almighty first? I am 100% convinced for a happy marriage and a successful marriage to become a lasting marriage-first starts with your relationship with your personal relationship with God which is a prerequisite in your spiritual growth , which builds character development for both spouses.

Is your Spouse a Believer?

It is so vitally important that both husband and wife are born again believers in Christ. As 2nd Corinthians 6:14 says; Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?

There are many inter faith marriages around the world I will admit, but the bible is clear regarding not being unyoked to a non-believer in your marriage. The God who is the author and designer of marriage had a very clear reason for this.

Therefore, it is very important that both husband and wife share the same Christian faith as believers in Christ. I want you to understand, I’m not talking about a new religion, I’m talking about a personal relationship with God Himself-there is a huge difference.

The Couple who Learns How to Meditate and Prays Together, Stays Together.

Many people state this as gospel fact, but there is a lot that is missing that needs explained by prayer. Just as Christ is the Head of the Church (believers in Christ), here on earth. The Man/husband is head of the Christian marriage and has the leadership development task of being the head of his marriage of his Christian family.

Many people especially liberal rights groups wrongly look at this passage of scripture as stating that man dictates and rules over his wife and family without regard to their emotional or physical needs. Man is not better than the wife-they are both equals before God , but it is man that is held accountable to God for being a loving, kind and God fearing husband, in being the leader for his wife, and his household that he has been placed in charge.

The position of the husband in the home and his related responsibilities are quite clearly defined in principle in Ephesians 5:22, 28-31. Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, even as Christ is head of the church; and he is the savior of the body. Therefore as the church is subject to Christ, so let wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wife as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it.

So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man ever yet hated his own flesh but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church . . . For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shal1 be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

There is a distinction between ruling as dominion over someone without regard to their wellbeing; physical, emotional and spiritual, but God clearly implies in this passage man is to provide overall guidance, love, emotional, and spiritual support, in a God-fearing way in providing unconditional love to his wife and family. As God loves His people, Man is to love his wife and family. How are you doing in this area?

Being Honest in Everything,

Honesty really is the best policy. The world may disagree here, but I do not follow the world’s directive-but God’s. The authoritative word of God is the litmus test in how all human beings are to be living their lives-yours too in being honest and truthful in all things. God is universal truth .

How honest are you in your marriage? Are you a giver or a taker? TOO many are takers. The me first mentality, which is wrong and is embraced by the world will only make your marriage and others’ end in failures.

Don’t allow lying to take hold of your relationship, lying will only fuel discord, distrust and anger; which if unchecked gives birth to hatred.

I challenge you to be different in your marriage with your spouse. Do not model your marriage after the world-but instead allow the Holy Spirit of God, the eternal God of the world to reside in you, to guide you, your life and your marriage. Honor your spouse through your words and in your actions.

If you want to know how to be happy , follow God’s principles and apply it to your life. By following and applying these biblical principles in your own life, not only can you have a happy marriage, you can be successful in the rest of life too. Click here to make your Christian life work in every way.

Being able to Offer Forgiveness and Being able to Forget

Are you able to forgive your spouse for wrongful acts of deceitfulness? Being able to forgive someone is a powerful testimony not only to your marriage, but to your faith as well. If the God of all creation is able to forgive all mankind for his sins-by dying on the cross, and offering man redemption through His blood in forgiving you of your sins-how much more should you be able to freely forgive your spouse?

I’ll admit, that there may be times when you don’t feel like offering forgiveness because of the act of betrayal that you feel. And unfortunately sometimes a marriage will not work as planned and end in failure.

There are many reasons for this, but it begins with both partners being believers and 100% committed to the marriage first.

But you both need to bring your self discipline and your self motivation in making it work.

By the same token, forgiveness is not a one way street.

You can’t expect God to help you with your hurt feelings of not being forgiven by someone else, if you are not willing to first forgive others whom have hurt you.

God is in the successful relationships building business, providing your heart and mind are open to receive Him unconditionally. Your marriage is waiting…


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